Your Kid Just Finished Gaokao. Stop Pretending You Know What They Need.
The real conflict after gaokao isn’t between relaxation and study—it’s between a parent’s anxiety-driven need to control outcomes and a child’s need for autonomy. This article exposes the unspoken guilt, the fear of losing purpose, and why the ‘relax vs. study’ debate is really about the parent’s identity. The solution: stop treating your child as a project and start letting them breathe.